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Natural Conversation Technique - By: Dan Bacon, Posted on: 2007-09-06

If you want to enjoy lasting conversations with women, focus on being natural and real - rather than using pick up lines or pretending to be someone you're not.

I remember when I first started approaching women. Not knowing what to say was one of my biggest problems, second only to the confidence to actually approach women in the first place!

It's funny looking back on those days. For about a year and a half, I tried using all sorts of scripted pick up lines or seduction routines (that I learnt from dodgy internet sites) and felt like a phony.

Women could see that I wasn't being real and that I was trying to pick them up by using some sort of seduction game, which made them feel uneasy around me.

Consequently, I got with no women for a very long time. Eventually, when I did build more confidence in myself and learnt how to be an alpha male - I started talking much more freely when I approached women.

I no longer felt the need to use scripted pick up lines to impress women and instead of being stuck for something to say, I'd just walk up and start chatting naturally.

Today, I'm going to give you one of my natural conversation techniques that will help you get through one of most awkward parts of an initial interaction with women. That is: What to say after the conversation starter.

I call this conversation technique 'Adventure Trailing' and it always works like a charm.

You see, women are attracted to guys who can offer them some value. Guys who actually have a life of their own and aren't looking to a woman to 'give them a life.'

It's one of those 'subtle' but powerful personality traits that will set you apart from most guys. Here's an example:

I walk over to some women and use a conversation starter and then after the introductions, I'll say something like:

"Yeah, we just got here. We started off at [insert name of bar/restaurant/cafe for a quiet drink and thought we'd come and check this place out. Loving the vibe in here, it's awesome - how about you guys...what's been going on tonight?"

Now let's have a look at how using the Adventure Trailing technique sets you apart from all the other guys.

- It demonstrates that you have a life of your own going on.
- Most guys walk up to women and try to join 'their world'

"Hey girls, havin' a good night?" In other words, "Hey girls, can we join you?"

By using the Adventure Trailing technique, you demonstrate that things are happening in your world.

- It helps start the interaction on an easy-going, social level, where you're just being social, rather than trying to pick up.
- It helps give the women a sense of your personality, as you express what you're saying with attractive body language and tonality.
- It puts the women 'on the spot' at the end of what you're saying, because now they have to tell you what they've been up to.
Just make sure you ask the question in an easy-going way. You're not aiming to make them feel uncomfortable!
- It helps bring the women into the conversation, by way of ending your statement with a question.

It may be a surprise to you, to realize that most women do not have good social skills. So, helping women into conversations with you will pay huge dividends.

That Adventure Trailing technique took me years of approaching women to work out. You've just collected it in a couple of minutes!

Here are some more conversation techniques that will ensure successful conversation with women:

a) Listen: Most guys get so caught up in trying to impress women, or get the bedroom - that they fail to listen to what the girl is talking about. If a woman notices that you're not listening and are just trying to pick her up 'asap', then she will put her defenses up...and rightly so.

b) Be expressive: A lot of guys are too afraid to express their real opinions, values or emotions on a particular topic. However, find it charming when a man displays alpha male qualities by stating what he really thinks about a situation, idea, etc.

c) Use humor: Humor is one of man's greatest weapons in the dating game. If you don't know how to use, humor in an interaction with women - you need to find out.

d) Don't be a nice guy: Trying to be overly nice or polite won't cut it.

Most women know when a man is being a Mr. Nice Guy in an attempt to win her over. Focus on being real, natural and on being an alpha male who knows how to flirt, chat and have a great time during interactions, dates and relationships with women.

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Dan Bacon is the CEO of TheModernMan.com who provide dating advice for men. Approach Women, What Women Want, Nice Guys, Nice Guys Finish Last, No More Mr Nice Guy Get Laid, How to Get Laid, The System How To Get Laid Today, Get Laid Tonight